Resources
5:1-THE OPTIMAL RATIO FOR SUCCESS IN PARENTING RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE
Russell R. Rice, MFT/CEO River Stones Residential Treatment Services Inc. We all desire to understand what the key drivers are behind the motivation to succeed. What is the anatomy of motivation, the formula to success and healthy relationships, both business and personal? There is a large body of respected research behind this that leads us to conclude that THE POSITIVE TO NEGATIVE RATIO of our thoughts and words make a significant impact on whether our relationships and businesses are languishing or flourishing.The first field of study that supports this theory is... Read more
Seeing Our Kids
Calibrating our Lenses to see the Good in our kids In a previous article called Reversing the Ratio I wrote about the how teens, especially intense ones and those with mental health issues, elicit more negative interactions than positive ones due to the amount of redirections required to steer their behavior. This is no one’s fault, it is an organic response to their intense behavior. I wrote of the profound need for parents to pay attention to this interactive ratio and shoot for a 5:1 positive to negative ratio. Less... Read more
Reversing The Ratio
The role of positive and negative interactions in building Strong Kids Intense and challenging teens, especially those with mental health issues, elicit negative attention from those around them. It’s no one’s fault. It is just the reality. Their behavior naturally elicits these responses, in fact, they often marinate in these responses most of the day, every day from parents, family and teachers. Those seemingly rare times they aren’t being difficult, we enjoy the break, and we rest. Being that intense kids keep the adults around them in a state of... Read more
The Storm of Adolescence
How quickly our kids transform from cute cuddly beings that adore us, to pimply, hormonal mysteries of volatile emotion that don’t seem to need us anymore. What used to work doesn’t any more. They aren’t as interested in us. They used to think we knew everything, now they think we know nothing. We quickly find ourselves without a map lost at sea. Author David Oldfield eloquently posed: “Does an hour pass without a teenager drowning in the excess of one thing or another: energy, embarrassment, exasperation, ennui? We can only... Read more