Principles and Values

Attitudes and principle
in working with youth

  1. KIDS DO BETTER WHEN THEY FEEL BETTER
  2. KIDS DO WELL IF THEY CAN. IF THEY ARE NOT, IDENTIFY AND TEACH THE SKILL THEY LACK
  3. ANY EXPECTATION OR REQUIREMENT MUST MATCH THEIR CAPACITY TO FULFILL IT
  4. RULES WITHOUT RELATIONSHIP LEADS TO REBELLION
  5. REFUSE TO ENERGIZE THE NEGATIVE, BUT ALSO REFUSE NOT TO RESET IT
  6. BE RELENTLESS IN HOLDING UP A MIRROR OF THEIR SUCCESS
  7. PIXILATE THEIR SUCCESS BY ASKING “WHAT DOES THAT SAY ABOUT THEM?”
  8. ALL KIDS ARE TREATED WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT, NEVER SHAME OR GUILT
  9. INSPIRATION RATHER THAN INTIMIDATION IS FAR MORE EFFECTIVE IN MOTIVATING A TEEN
  10. ALL DISCIPLINE IS DELIVERED KINDLY, RESPECTFULLY AND FIRMLY IN A NON-PUNITIVE MANNER
  11. ALL INTERVENTIONS FOCUS ON LONG TERM RESULTS RATHER THAN SHORT TERM COMPLIANCE
  12. PUNISHMENT AND FEAR ARE NOT GOOD LONG TERM MOTIVATORS
  13. WE DON’T JUST FOCUS ON BEHAVIOR, BUT RATHER THE THINKING BEHIND THE BEHAVIOR
  14. WHEN CONSEQUENCES ARE GIVEN, IT IS IMPERATIVE THAT A DISCUSSION FOLLOWS WHEN THE YOUTH IS CALM REGARDING THE VALUE AND SKILL BEHIND THE BEHAVIOR
  15. CHILDREN LISTEN BEST WHEN THEY FEEL LISTENED TO
  16. RELATIONSHIP IS THE BEDROCK OF RIVER STONES AND THE CONDUIT OF CHANGE
  17. CLEAR, CONSISTENT AND PREDICTABLE
  18. IT IS FAR MORE IMPORTANT AND EFFECTIVE TO WIN KIDS OVER, RATHER THAN WINNING OVER KIDS: POWER CORRUPTS RELATIONSHIPS
  19. ALWAYS SEEK TO ACHIEVE A BALANCE BETWEEN AUTHORITY FIGURE AND FRIEND
  20. WHEN WE MAKE MISTAKES AS ADULTS, ADMIT THEM AND ACKNOWLEDGE THE DAMAGE OR HURT FEELINGS THAT MAY HAVE OCCURRED. THIS DOES NOT WEAKEN OUR AUTHORITY, IT STRENGTHENS IT
  21. STRIVE FOR IMPROVEMENT, NOT PERFECTION
  22. THE ABILITY TO MANAGE OUR OWN EMOTIONS IS A KEY IN OUR EFFECTIVNESS
  23. WHEN IN DOUBT…LOVE!